Look....I'm young, at 23, i still have a lot to learn about "things" including WOMEN!
My (female) boss said something that made me think hard about women of today & marriage in general!
As a young'un, all i ever heard from grown men about their wives or girlfriends, was how complicated/stubborn/ignorant/CONTROLLING these women were.....no compliments, no gratefulness, no pride! Automatically as i grow i would only share negative things about my girlfriend to my gang because its all i know....no "yoh bafwethu my girl is the most beautiful girl i know", no "heh bafwethu my girl o blind when it comes to this or that". NONE OF IT!!
With that being said.....are girls nowadays so deserving of that praise?
The quality of "WOMAN" we have to choose from today is appalling #YeahIsaidIT
Women today "like things"! There is absolutely nothing wrong with that except that, they do certain things to get to "those things" because they don't wanna work towards that themselves or wait for their right time to indulge in "things". An 18year old girl gets to varsity then suddenly has cravings for champagne, caviar & sushi. Most of them don't even know how to pronounce the names of the things they like so much, like Moyay or is it Mo-Ay or Mo-Et? Or could it be Patroon or Patroun? Or maybe its Vwev or Vev or Voov? South Africa's economy being what it is, its very rare that 18-25year old guys would be able to afford such luxuries for their girlfriends or young wives. This attracts the woman of today to "baetapele" (loosely translated as: Leaders). These are not only sugar daddies, these include tenderprenuers, trust-fund kids, soccer players or DJ's, generally people who are able & most importantly, willing to SPEND money (not wealth) as quickly as they acquire it!!
Young girls in University res's or communes take pride in being picked up in expensive flashy cars every weekend, given rolls or stacks of cash to spend nje nje, and taken to exclusive high end clubs & parties to meet the whos whos of SA. They don't even mind if the man is married already or has a potbelly double the size of Khulubuse Zuma.....afterall, botle ba monna bo pokothong ya hae (the size of a man's pockets determines how attractive he is) They have champers flowing like Busta Rhymes' lyrics, fast and stopping only to take a short breath. It goes without saying though that SEX, SEX, & SEX is a key part of the fast lifestyle. They will never admit it though....i mean...would You??
These are the women who 5-10 years down the line, will meet a guy who would want to introduce them to family & marry them. By then, the women would claim to have outgrown the lifestyle when truth is, they got old, wide or clingy!! Baetapele prefer fresh "meat" and once you are seen as old news or a has-been, ITS OVER! The women are then called names like "Ausi wa kgaale" or "nkgono ______(insert name)".
These are women WE will marry....the has-beens, the left-overs!! You find them all over, from Tzaneen to Aliwal North or from Margate to Springbok! You might say: "But at church...." Hei SHOTUP *said in my Nigerian accent* Church is the sanctuary for most of these "divas" for obvious reasons, that's where the alter is!!
Finding a GOOD woman nowadays depends on PURE LUCK!!! We all have our definition of what a "good woman" is i guess but i assume we can generally agree that it's a woman who can look back 10 years and be proud of her behaviour, choices & actions. A woman who CAN say to herself: No one can say i was a one night stand, booty call, side pussy or sugar daddies "varsity project"! NO i'm not talking about a virgin but a woman who can remember the men who have seen & touched her "there" and not feel ashamed!
My boss said: "For a marriage to last, the wife must control her husband"! Feminist but YES she is married with four kids. She went on to say: "Marriages where the woman is not in control, mostly end up in divorce"
WHHHAAAATTT!!??? Wait.....think about it......Those old men who kept complaining, are still happily married with women firmly in control. Those who kept saying "No woman will control me" have divorced and i run into them in clubs looking stupid with their m'khaba around petite young girls, who they can control!
I kinda sorta agree with my bosses view but do our future wives have that Quality? If they can not control themselves when they see bottles of Moyeay or the latest Beemer, Benz or Bentley, how will they run a household? How will they put down their foot like your granmom did to your stubborn grandad and turn a house into a home? How can they...when you can not walk hand-in-hand through any shopping mall without them looking around then looking down because "a friend" they know "from way back" might recognize them and say something that might complicate things?
I'm not judging, I'm just saying....these are MY ramblings anyway...
We all make mistakes....but do we HAVE to?
By: KevCare
Growing up.....
Wednesday 22 June 2011
Politricks and Legal Loopholes 1
This is my first blog post *claps once* Moving right along.....
Are our country's judges really so "Honorable"? Is the judicial system really impartial?
It is said that an accused person is innocent until proven guilty! Fair enough. But if TWO people commit ONE crime TOGETHER, how then does our judicial system find one person guilty but then turn around and acquit "accused number 2" of the crime?? Yes, this is the case of our beloved President. It was found that he & his "friend" had a "generally corrupt" relationship!
To any sane person's mind, that would mean that BOTH of the accused should be found guilty...not so??? Zuma's lawyers knew that they would not WIN the case outright if he is trailed with his good friend Shabir Shaik (being accused number 1), making sure that the cases are tried separately was THE KEY move. This was at a time when Zuma HAD TO become ANC & South African President otherwise ish was going to hit the fan for a lot of people.
In comes the "Honorable" Judge Herbet Msimang & Mokotedi Mpshe....
The two men played key roles in getting Jacob Zuma's case off the roll. It was said that it was unlawful to prosecute JZ because of some suspected political conspiracy! WTF?? It was proven in Shaik's case though....He took bribe money! He made promises about the success of the arms deal, which he kept! "Legal Technicality" my voet maan. After Zuma became President both men, Msimang & Mpshe, at some stage, got promoted to senior positions by the very same "accused".
Could it be that they were promised better positions because once acquitted, it was inevitable that Zuma would be SA President?
Did Zuma then go on to "repay" his old friend by making sure that he is out of prison waaaaay before he even served a third of his jail term??
The ONE question that lingers in my mind is:
Are we SERIOUSLY standing by and watching corrupt people get away with crime by using "legal loopholes" and we still put vote them into powerful positions?
We see these things happen and a demagogy like Julius Malema is often used to divert our attention from whats really happening. Are we that Blind, Stupid or Dumb??
Remove Emotions. Look at issues. Think about it....ACT
By: KevCare
Christian, member of the ANCYL....but a puppet i'm not!
"BATHO PELE"
Are our country's judges really so "Honorable"? Is the judicial system really impartial?
It is said that an accused person is innocent until proven guilty! Fair enough. But if TWO people commit ONE crime TOGETHER, how then does our judicial system find one person guilty but then turn around and acquit "accused number 2" of the crime?? Yes, this is the case of our beloved President. It was found that he & his "friend" had a "generally corrupt" relationship!
To any sane person's mind, that would mean that BOTH of the accused should be found guilty...not so??? Zuma's lawyers knew that they would not WIN the case outright if he is trailed with his good friend Shabir Shaik (being accused number 1), making sure that the cases are tried separately was THE KEY move. This was at a time when Zuma HAD TO become ANC & South African President otherwise ish was going to hit the fan for a lot of people.
In comes the "Honorable" Judge Herbet Msimang & Mokotedi Mpshe....
The two men played key roles in getting Jacob Zuma's case off the roll. It was said that it was unlawful to prosecute JZ because of some suspected political conspiracy! WTF?? It was proven in Shaik's case though....He took bribe money! He made promises about the success of the arms deal, which he kept! "Legal Technicality" my voet maan. After Zuma became President both men, Msimang & Mpshe, at some stage, got promoted to senior positions by the very same "accused".
Could it be that they were promised better positions because once acquitted, it was inevitable that Zuma would be SA President?
Did Zuma then go on to "repay" his old friend by making sure that he is out of prison waaaaay before he even served a third of his jail term??
The ONE question that lingers in my mind is:
Are we SERIOUSLY standing by and watching corrupt people get away with crime by using "legal loopholes" and we still put vote them into powerful positions?
We see these things happen and a demagogy like Julius Malema is often used to divert our attention from whats really happening. Are we that Blind, Stupid or Dumb??
Remove Emotions. Look at issues. Think about it....ACT
By: KevCare
Christian, member of the ANCYL....but a puppet i'm not!
"BATHO PELE"
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